And Like That...

The current girl situation has cleared itself out. Strictly speaking, age alone has not been a deciding factor, but the two girls on opposite ends of the age spectrum (relatively speaking) are no longer on my radar. The younger one was my choice. I just feel like I want someone who has traveled a bit more down the pathways of life.

The older one was her choice. We've gone out a few times, and had fun. I felt it was easy to talk to her, and she felt the same. But I guess she wasn't feelin' much interest. I'm disappointed, I felt like I could be more myself with her.

The situation taught me some things though. I've been able to focus my search criteria a little more in some areas, and broaden it in others. Age differences aren't as big a deal for me anymore. But having similar experiences carries a little more weight. Also, timing is another thing. I was attracted to B (The older one) early on this summer, and I thought she was as well. But I let all that time pass. I don't know if things would have been any different, but there is something to be said about striking while the iron is hot. I think I learned to be a little more direct about things. Once I started being more direct, I got clearer responses.

Now the trick is to move forward and not stand still or move backwards. Someone good is out there somewhere, but she'll only be found going forward.

High School

So the girl situation was feeling a bit like high school. Now it turns out that S actually just graduated from high school in the spring. When she started coming to the ward, I thought she had just moved in. I also thought she was at least 25. She doesn't act like an 18 year old, and she looks more mature than her years. But she is in fact 18. That's just two years older than my kid brother. Now I feel...I don't know what I feel actually. I think she is still cool, but it's different.

In Raiders of the Lost Ark, Indy says, "It's not the years, it's the mileage." I am not as concerned about ages, but I am concerned about experiences. I mean, I know folks that got married despite a 10 year age difference. But, I think it is important that people have an appreciation for each other's experiences.

Something for me to chew on for a bit.